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What do you do when you have it all figured out, you’ve found someone who’s potentially good for you, and this person is into you and like you, plans their life with you in it! I know it sounds silly, and I know I could be way over my head here... but! It happens, and it’s pretty amazing when it does. Well the point is, what do you do when you have this, and suddenly out of the blue, the other person makes other plans?
I know the answer to this… START OVER. Its so much easier to be said than done though. I think that it takes a lot of maturity to deal with these kinds of situations, because, why would you want to be with someone that wants to be with you temporarily? However, when you think like that, you’re just headed into short relationships and divorce. (And if you’re into dating different people, one night stands, the bachelor’s dream life... that’s completely respectable and cool.)
In my experience, good things never last that long, or they’re extremely hard to keep, but that’s why communicating is so important. Because, many things can get misinterpreted, and well when everything has been cleared out, well you can make a decision, fix things, or get “rid” of ‘em and really START OVER after that.
Another issue: waiting. Waiting on someone is one of the most bullshit situations there is, do not. I repeat do not EVER wait for someone, the only thing you will get is either a surprise and/or a broken heart. Therefore, saying shit like “oh we’ll be together after this happens” is selfish bullshit, just move on with your life.
Adulthood is such a hard thing, when you’re a kid you don’t even think about all this crap. And right now I’m just finding myself in a point where I’m like... what the hell is going to happen next?! Career wise, love wise, friendships wise.. I know that eventually everything fits into its place, and it’s just a part of growing up, but why do you have to trade in one thing just to get another. I want it all... Doesn’t everyone?!
